Felt and Filed
However well you know someone, there is almost always another layer underneath. Something they have been carrying that you have not yet thought to ask about.
The Case for Firsthand Language
I have to fill you in on my week, my client Hillary said. Not much happening at work. But OMG my friends. The pickleball drama. I had everyone over for bagels and Champagne on Saturday before Porch Fest. It was…
What Your Language Is Doing Without You
Why the vocabulary you reach for automatically, below awareness, is shaping a self-concept you never chose. A clinical look at language, identity, and the cost of imprecision.
When Earth Fits in a Window, the World Goes Silent
A client came back from space a few years ago. Not a figure of speech. Blue Origin. A few minutes past the Kármán line, the altitude where atmosphere ends and space begins. When we met afterward, I was prepared for…
The Last Ten Percent
Most of us have a last ten percent—the habit we almost broke, the pattern we nearly changed, the version of ourselves we got close to but never fully reached. We’ve done real work. We are, by any honest measure, mostly…
They Knew. They Stayed. Here’s Why. | The Psychology of Looking Away
I think of it as a volume problem. I sit with people who are navigating the quiet tension — the layer of pressure, drive, doubt, or longing that hums beneath the surface of a high-performing life. Usually, it’s quiet. It…
The Penguin Cliff and Your Bratty Teenager
I recently watched a National Geographic video - first time ever recorded - of 700 emperor penguin chicks in Antarctica making their inaugural trek to the water. Climate change has made the journey harder. What used to be a 1-2…
How High-Performing Parents Can Create a Healthy Home
Balancing a high-pressure career with our personal well-being is challenging enough—and for parents, there’s an added complication: teaching our children about good mental health, too. High-performing parents who struggle with anxiety, depression, an eating disorder, or another mental health challenge…
Protecting Your Cognitive Health: Understanding the Hidden Impacts of Eating Disorders
When we think of eating disorders, we tend to think of physical symptoms—restrictive eating, for example, or rapid weight loss. These symptoms are often indicators of a deeper problem and can be incredibly disruptive to our day-to-day functioning. But we…
The Myth of Work-Life Balance: How To Find Harmony in High-Pressure Jobs
We’re all familiar with the term “work-life balance.” But it wasn’t always as popular a concept as it is now. The mid-20th century was the era of the “company man.” The idea was simple: if you were loyal to your…