Felt and Filed
However well you know someone, there is almost always another layer underneath. Something they have been carrying that you have not yet thought to ask about.
What If You Were Exceptional?
Why some high performers subconsciously limit their own potential, and what it takes to finally get out of your own way.
The Case for Firsthand Language
I have to fill you in on my week, my client Hillary said. Not much happening at work. But OMG my friends. The pickleball drama. I had everyone over for bagels and Champagne on Saturday before Porch Fest. It was…
From Private Equity to Mahjong Teacher
A 35-year-old who left private equity is teaching her aunt and two friends how to play mahjong. Three women on a sofa, three hours every Sunday afternoon. The mahjong is just the excuse. What they really needed was a reason to be in the same room, with no agenda, on a regular basis. A sport psychologist on loneliness in high achievers and the case for adult friendship.
The Band Came Off. And She Was Still There.
Why I told my patient to race with no data Heather crossed the finish line of her first race in a year, and there was no chip on her shoe. No watch. No band. No screen waiting on her wrist…
The Kitchen Scale
The scale reads 800 grams. Manitoba flour — high protein, built for structure, the kind that holds air. This is Samin Nosrat’s sky-high focaccia. Breadmaking doesn’t forgive guessing. You want sky high. Her words. The promise. You measure. The number…
What Your Language Is Doing Without You
Why the vocabulary you reach for automatically, below awareness, is shaping a self-concept you never chose. A clinical look at language, identity, and the cost of imprecision.
You Don’t Burn Out From Doing Too Much
You Don’t Burn Out From Doing Too Much In 2021, the tennis world called Naomi Osaka a diva. She was the highest-paid female athlete on the planet, four Grand Slam titles, and she refused to sit in front of a…
When Earth Fits in a Window, the World Goes Silent
A client came back from space a few years ago. Not a figure of speech. Blue Origin. A few minutes past the Kármán line, the altitude where atmosphere ends and space begins. When we met afterward, I was prepared for…
Confidence Is a Weak Mental Skill
What elite athletes get wrong about mental performance — and what to build instead By Sharon Chirban, PhD | Clinical Psychologist & Sport Performance Coach There is a moment, before any important performance, when the thinking becomes the problem. You’ve…